Remember when you're younger, you tend to get presents from your parents. Yes, there is no doubt that every one loves getting presents from anyone. The most interesting part of this process is when you get what you have always wanted. In my case, presents are always a kind of token of expression from my parents. They gave me and my siblings as a symbol of encouraging us. Our presents are not pricey though, it might be toys or something small.
When I was small, I remember I have always wanted a "Gameboy". My dad promised me that if I have a moderate results for my UPSR, he will get me one. Indeed, I did quite well and got the presents. I learned a lesson from him when I was thinking back; which is "Never lie to a child". I can imagine what I will do if I did not get the "Gameboy" that I was looking for.
Children nowadays are very condemned by their parents. They get what they want without any options. Parents nowadays are very : "afraid-to-lose" type (kia-su) . They always think on how to present themselves by giving what best to their children. Imagine, an Adidas watch, a Nike school bag and a pair of Nike school shoes. They are wearing half (or a quarter) of a thousand ringgit to school everyday. Can you imagine how these kids will grow up wanting more branded stuff? I went to school wearing a pair of Bata school shoes, Swan school bag and without a watch. Imagine the big differences.
What makes us better than the children of today's generation is our maturity. We are more capable of dealing with our own problems rather than calling for our parents' help. The problem is because the mothers would not give their children a chance to learn how to be independent. Go to SFI Primary School at 10 in the morning. You can see mothers lining up outside the fence just to see their son in school. For heaven sake, they are old enough to deal with their problems. Another case is their homework. Homework are supposed to be done on the children willingness. No doubt, no children like to do their homework but what made them do is the consequences of not doing them. The mothers nowadays send their children to after school classes and forces them to do their homework. Moreover, the tuition center are giving them extra work. Imagine how they are going to handle those workload. Pressuring your children is never a good way of teaching them. Human cannot perform well under pressure.
Let children be in charge of their lives. Parents like to decide what course they are going to take, forcing them to a path that they does not want to walk but forced to. Then, they will start doing nonsense in school, cannot perform well in their academics and starts giving up hope on themselves. Is it a selfish way of the parents to make their children? Parents never think of the sources of why their children are who they are now. They will only blame 2 things, the teachers and the school, but never themselves.
There is a lot more to learn in parenting. No one can be the perfect mother or father, but what they can do is to give their children the best in the value of morale and guiding them.
When I was small, I remember I have always wanted a "Gameboy". My dad promised me that if I have a moderate results for my UPSR, he will get me one. Indeed, I did quite well and got the presents. I learned a lesson from him when I was thinking back; which is "Never lie to a child". I can imagine what I will do if I did not get the "Gameboy" that I was looking for.
Children nowadays are very condemned by their parents. They get what they want without any options. Parents nowadays are very : "afraid-to-lose" type (kia-su) . They always think on how to present themselves by giving what best to their children. Imagine, an Adidas watch, a Nike school bag and a pair of Nike school shoes. They are wearing half (or a quarter) of a thousand ringgit to school everyday. Can you imagine how these kids will grow up wanting more branded stuff? I went to school wearing a pair of Bata school shoes, Swan school bag and without a watch. Imagine the big differences.
What makes us better than the children of today's generation is our maturity. We are more capable of dealing with our own problems rather than calling for our parents' help. The problem is because the mothers would not give their children a chance to learn how to be independent. Go to SFI Primary School at 10 in the morning. You can see mothers lining up outside the fence just to see their son in school. For heaven sake, they are old enough to deal with their problems. Another case is their homework. Homework are supposed to be done on the children willingness. No doubt, no children like to do their homework but what made them do is the consequences of not doing them. The mothers nowadays send their children to after school classes and forces them to do their homework. Moreover, the tuition center are giving them extra work. Imagine how they are going to handle those workload. Pressuring your children is never a good way of teaching them. Human cannot perform well under pressure.
Let children be in charge of their lives. Parents like to decide what course they are going to take, forcing them to a path that they does not want to walk but forced to. Then, they will start doing nonsense in school, cannot perform well in their academics and starts giving up hope on themselves. Is it a selfish way of the parents to make their children? Parents never think of the sources of why their children are who they are now. They will only blame 2 things, the teachers and the school, but never themselves.
There is a lot more to learn in parenting. No one can be the perfect mother or father, but what they can do is to give their children the best in the value of morale and guiding them.
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